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Do you have Passion?

imagesPassion means to have a very strong feeling about something or someone. It is an intense emotion. Recently, I painted a canvas with little regard to style, form, or design, I just let passion direct my hand into this painting and I painted what I felt. I posted this painting and within minutes, my painting made its way to someone that absolutely loved it and bought it for their office.

I tried a couple days later to do the same painting but without the same passion and that paining will never see the light of day as it is now painted over with another coat of paint!! I let other things dampen my passion and I knew it.

I decided to sit back and understand what was the reason behind one painting being a treasured and looked at and a motivator to others and another one just a painting on the wall. I realized it was the passion I felt when I painted. Now it also goes that the one loving my painting has to also have this same passion for it.

So how do we get passion and how do we let passion give us the creativity, the drive, the desire to enjoy the day and allow ourselves to be used by God to actually make a difference in this world. Are we on this earth to just live each day to just breathe or are we here for a purpose?

I realized that I was not meant to be a great singer, or preacher, or composer, but I can be that person that can encourage the great singers, preachers, and composers of this world. I can be “their person” by being passionate in what I do and how I do it in hopes that others will be encouraged by my words or actions. Have you ever read a quotation by someone and it changed your way of thinking? Your entire day changed. The poem created passion in your life. The day actually went better and not much bothered you.

You can be that poet in someone’s life. You can give that inspiration with your smile, your patience, your willingness to listen to someone. See, we do not have to be someone great to make a difference, but we can be the wind that swoops in behind of them to push them to greatness.

Tomorrow I will talk about what we can do to get that passion …. It is not always easy, I think we have to work at it sometimes. We have to have a plan.

But for today…………… think about it, do you have passion?

Thursday, March 13, 2014. I ask the Father, one more thing……….. “Keep them safe and make them strong.”

1970459_668649933193142_1593178405_nThis past weekend I was there to watch my son marry the woman of his dreams.  He told her in his vows that he would love her for a thousand years and he meant that.  The weather was perfect, the words from the preacher were fitting to a tee, and the bride was absolutely stunning.

But when I saw was my son’s face I saw his life from a little boy to the man that he is today.  His first steps, his first giggle, his tears when he fell, his struggles in piano lessons, his first goal in soccer, his glance back at me as we left him at college, his smile when we would come visit, his first salute when he commissioned, his walk down the aisle when he graduated from college and his excitement when he was chosen for ENJYPT pilot training, his graduation from pilot school and when he talked about Addy.

He’d talked about her often for several years like he knew she was the girl he would proposed to on that cold day at the National Harbor. I know now that Addy was that little girl I prayed for all those years as Robert was growing up during …. her first steps, her tears when she fell as a little girl, her struggles school, when she left  for college…… she was that woman I prayed for every night for my son.

I wanted to share the mother son dance played during the reception when I danced with my little boy, now a man.

A MOTHER’S PRAYER
Words by Bonnie J. Barbey
Music by Kay Crawford

A PRECIOUS LITTLE BABY BOY TUCKED IN HIS MOTHER’S ARMS
LISTENS AS SHE ASKS HER LORD TO KEEP HIM SAFE FROM HARM
HE LOOKS AT HER IN WONDER, AS HE HEARS HIS MOMMA PRAY
FOR GOD TO BLESS THE BABY GIRL WHO WILL MARRY HIM SOMEDAY

Chorus
KEEP HER SAFE, MAKE HER STRONG
GUARD HER BODY, HEART, AND SOUL
AND LET HER LIFE BE FILLED WITH LOVE
LIGHT THE PATH THAT SHE’S BEGUN
GIVE HER FAITH, FOR SHE’S THE ONE
WHO WILL GROW INTO THE WOMAN WHO
WILL STAND BESIDE MY SON

WADING POOLS AND BIG BOY TOOLS, HIS BUSY HANDS AT PLAY
SOMEWHERE THERE’S OTHER TINY HANDS THAT WILL JOIN WITH HIS ONE DAY
MOM’S HEART GOES OUT ACROSS THE MILES AS SHE SEEKS HER FATHER’S FACE
PRAYERS RISE INTO HEAVEN, TRANSCENDING TIME AND SPACE

KEEP HER SAFE, MAKE HER STRONG
GUARD HER BODY, HEART, AND SOUL
AND LET HER LIFE BE FILLED WITH LOVE
LIGHT THE PATH THAT SHE’S BEGUN
GIVE HER FAITH, FOR SHE’S THE ONE
WHO WILL GROW INTO THE WOMAN WHO
WILL STAND BESIDE MY SON

A LOVELY BRIDE COMES DOWN THE AISLE, MOM’S EYES ARE FILLED WITH TEARS
HER SON IS JOINING WITH THE ONE SHE’S PRAYED FOR ALL THESE YEARS
SHE SEES GOD’S HAND, HIS PERFECT PLAN IN THE COUPLE STANDING THERE
SHE BREATHES A SIGH OF THANKS TO GOD WHO HEARD A MOTHER’S PRAYER

KEEP HER SAFE, MAKE HER STRONG
GUARD HER BODY, HEART, AND SOUL
AND LET HER LIFE BE FILLED WITH LOVE
LIGHT THE PATH THAT SHE’S BEGUN
GIVE HER FAITH, FOR SHE’S THE ONE
WHO HAS GROWN INTO THE WOMAN WHO
NOW STANDS BESIDE MY SON

THE MARRIAGE VOWS ARE SPOKEN, EXCHANGING OF THE RINGS
AND SHE PRAYS, “OH FATHER, NOW I COME AND ASK FOR ONE MORE THING”
KEEP THEM SAFE, MAKE THEM STRONG
GUARD THEIR BODIES, HEARTS AND SOULS
AND LET THEIR HOME BE FILLED WITH LOVE
LIGHT THE PATH THEY’VE NOW BEGUN
GIVE THEM FAITH, FOR THEY’RE THE ONES
WHO WILL GROW INTO A COUPLE WHO WILL GLORIFY YOUR SON
LIGHT THE PATH THEY’VE NOW BEGUN
GIVE THEM FAITH, THEY’RE CHOSEN ONES
LET THEM GROW INTO THE COUPLE WHO WILL GLORIFY YOUR SON

Robert and Addy, I love you both.  Love, mamma.

Tuesday, January 15, 2013. The Emotional Well … keep it full.

I woke out of a sound sleep with the blog for today.  Wow, was I dreaming it?  Or was God whispering this to me.  Ok, either way (and I am sure it was the latter) I need to get it down.  Remember the blog I wrote a couple days back about the walls we as women put up?  The story about the young couple and the snowballs?  Well, I have thought over the years what could prevent a woman from building those walls or at least not too high!

I call it the “emotional well”

As we get busy in our daily life, we get drawn into ourself and go about doing “our thing.”  We sing and flitter around and keep focussed on what where we are going.  Sometimes what we are doing is not quite in line with what our spouses or our loved ones are doing.  I am talking about husbands and wives, daughter and moms, boyfriend and girlfriends.  AND, if that other person gets in our verse….  I am talking about .. We are singing a song and he interrupts you in the MIDDLE of the verse right when you are singing about the emotional stuff.  You glare at him for not realizing you were not done with your final emotional drama.  He wants to say something and needs to say it now as he is also in his mode of getting ready for work or feels his man- thoughts are more important than yours.   Inside you think….  I am still in the emotional draw of my song and you don’t care. You feel you are not even there!

So, this is where you both draw into your “emotional wells.” Ok, here is the catch….  to draw something out, you have to had put something in, right?  I believe if we both make an effort (and to put something in is an effort) to put in MORE than we know the other will take out.  You see, you put in so when you are not thinking and are grumpy, the other can draw from it when you snnaaaap.  If you never put into the well your love, your kindness, your humor, your consideration, when you need to snnnaaaap, there is nothing for the other person to draw from.  And believe me they will snnnnaaapppp back in a big way.  BUT, if you have a ton of inputs into the well, the other person feels safe.  They know you will put back into the well.  I hope this all makes sense.  It is actually human nature.  But it only works if you both work hard on giving (putting into the well) and if you put in more than you draw on.

Later I will blog about what to do if you are putting into the emotional well and he is adding…. well, nothing!!! OR if after years, you just doing feel safe anymore.