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Call me a Confident Woman?

I was recently reminded by two of my followers that I had not posted anything lately and that is true.  I like to just pop off the saying….  “life happened”.  But,life  just did not happen for me, it was all planned out even before the days that turned into months passed.

During the past two years, I lost my mother, blossomed in my artist’s journey, and learned a lot along the way about myself.  I had many tears but they were both sad tears and happy tears.   God took my mother home but allowed me to be there in her arms when she passed.  God opened doors for me in my business and answered each soft prayer I whispered.  Believe me I was bold in  my requests at times.  (future blog)

But before I list all the things that have happened in my world, I just felt compelled to talk about the word “a confident woman.”

I believe when we ask God for something He will answer that prayer.  I also know that many times we (and I include myself) are afraid to pray for something as we do not think we deserve it, or it is too big for us to think God will give that desire to us.  Believe, if we are not supposed to have it, it will become apparent that we are to either wait for it or allow God to show us what we are supposed to have.

I have had other people, both men and women tell me they feel I am a very confident woman.  While this did not happen over night, I am 100% certain that this confidence people see in me is my letting God have control of my path.  I guess you might say this has made me fearless in stepping out and doing new things,  Along the way, I have had people tell …. “don’t you think you should do this or that?”  Well, my answer to that is… if I felt what I was doing was God leading me, do, I do not second guess what I am doing.  Are there days I feel vulnerable and hiding under my covers….. yup!!  many days, but then I feel this little voice telling me to get my heels on and start kicking again.  I honestly think many of us are afraid to ask for something as God just might give it to us and then we have to be confident enough to step forward.  IT is like we are so surprised God would actually open that door.  Well, I ask and then when God says YES, I confidently walk through that door.  When I feel afraid, I remind myself, I am not alone.

I also know that there are things I would like to do in my life, but I am waiting on God to open that door.  I know all too well if I rush it, I in my own power will fail.  If I wait for God’s timing, how can I fail?

So what you see in me, those that call me confident, is not MY strength or my doing….. it is all God’s.  I guess a better way to say it is that I am confident in Christ.

Do not be afraid to ask God for the desires of your heart.  Do not be afraid to then step out with confidence when the door is opened.  AND then know with your whole heart, God it there with you.

I am not sure who will read this as I have not posted in so long, but my prayer is if even one person will step out with me on this journey of being a confident women, then I know it was meant to post.

Love, Cheryl

Will someone listen to me?

youremypersonDon’t you hate it when someone tells you to stop complaining and whining when you feel bad and really just want someone to listen to you? I am normally a very positive person and am the “go to person” for many when they are hurting and need to share their heart.

I am not a stranger to pain, hurt, loss of a loved one, loss due to miscarriages, health issues, among other pains. I guess at 58, you would have to expect a life of some pain and challenges and I have had my share of them. I thank God He knew to give me a sister to lean on and share with.

I think as women, we do need to have someone “your person” that you can share with, talk about anything with and even complain to. There are times that I do not want to load her down with my problems, and frankly I should not. She is dealing with her own issues. Don’t get me wrong, sharing with another woman, especially if she is a believer, is helpful. And sharing our burdens, our heavy hearts with someone we trust provides us an emotional balance. In a way, it restores us.

But, here is what I have learned in my 58 years and what I wanted to share! I have to be careful to not let all the issues and burdens overwhelm me to the point that I cannot see through them. I think God puts “things” in our life that we totally miss because we are not looking. If I let the feelings of hurt or depression overwhelm me and blanket me I tend to wrap up in the blanket and not peep out. If we allow ourselves, no matter how hard it is to let go of what we are going through to breath deep and actually peek out of what we think is our safety bubble, for hope or encouragement, we will find it.

I am not saying this will be easy because I know when I am hurting, the last thing I want is to expose myself to more hurt. What if I look for that happiness and it is not there and I find more pain. I know this feeling. But, keep looking. God many times is sharing His blessing in small things like a kind word from someone, a stranger that lets you in front of them in the line, even someone humming a pretty tune around you. If you can let the small blessings around you into your day, you will possibly not let the next hurtful thing drive you deeper into your hole.

Once you start looking for the small things, you will start to SEE them around you without looking!! God does not promise us every day will be without pain, but He does promise to be faithful in His love and be there for us when we are going through pain. To everything there is a season. When my brother was missing and then found dead, life stood still for me. I could not breathe for days. But I did eventually breathe and He was there waiting for me.

One verse that is a promise I hold onto is: “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, and of love and of a sound mind.” 2 Timothy 1:7. No one can be there for me on every occasion. But I know that God is there. I might not reach out to Him as my first source because I am hurting and think He is not listening to me and cannot comfort me like a phone call to “my person” but, actually, He will never be working, be on the phone, or on vacation, but His phone is never busy. Let God by “your person.”

Can God use us if we are a mess? Yep!!

woman in sunriseI recently got a call from someone that I had not talked to for a couple years. This woman was a mentee of mine and at the point we stopped weekly communications, I felt she needed to stand on her own and that she did not need me anymore.

When she texted me last week to ask if she could set up a time to talk, I wondered how she had been, what she had been doing, how her career was doing and whether or not she had worked out some of the issues she had been struggling with.

As I wait for the call, there was a thought, did I say the right things to her to help her move on? What was she going to tell me? You see, there was such excitement in her text (yes you can read into texted words). When her call came, she still had the excitement in her voice and she thanked me for taking her call. After we exchanged our pleasantries, I asked her what was new in her life and what her exciting news was. She went on to tell me that her job she had just started when we stopped meeting was sending her overseas for a year to work and she was so excited.

As she talked, she mentioned several times a platitude of some sort and then would end the sentence, you know you taught me that! She filled me in on how strong she was and how she had grown. I was so happy for her. She was like a small frail bird at one time that took her flight and now was strong and had wings of air.

As we ended the call, she told me that what helped her was my words I gave her when we worked together. She said she never gave up her dream to be strong and that she knew she had to take steps that scared her to know that she was not going to fall down, but that each step was going to make her stronger.

I reminded her that the words were not mine but always God’s words. I gave her advice I learned from having to take the same scary steps.   I remember times when I was faced with questions I wondered, where am I going to get the words to help this young woman, and then I would let God speak through me to her.

I did not need the strength, I just needed to let God speak through me. I needed to let God use me as a beacon. There were times I really did not want to go met her because I wanted to stay curled up in my warm bed, but I knew God had words she needed to hear and I was the beacon God needed to use.

My challenge to you is to always listen to what God is telling you and always take that step to let Him guide you. Helping others is hard to do when we are needing help ourselves. I know this more than anyone else!!! But God does not always use the strong out there to help others, he uses those that are weak and most of all willing. Be willing.

Thursday, March 13, 2014. I ask the Father, one more thing……….. “Keep them safe and make them strong.”

1970459_668649933193142_1593178405_nThis past weekend I was there to watch my son marry the woman of his dreams.  He told her in his vows that he would love her for a thousand years and he meant that.  The weather was perfect, the words from the preacher were fitting to a tee, and the bride was absolutely stunning.

But when I saw was my son’s face I saw his life from a little boy to the man that he is today.  His first steps, his first giggle, his tears when he fell, his struggles in piano lessons, his first goal in soccer, his glance back at me as we left him at college, his smile when we would come visit, his first salute when he commissioned, his walk down the aisle when he graduated from college and his excitement when he was chosen for ENJYPT pilot training, his graduation from pilot school and when he talked about Addy.

He’d talked about her often for several years like he knew she was the girl he would proposed to on that cold day at the National Harbor. I know now that Addy was that little girl I prayed for all those years as Robert was growing up during …. her first steps, her tears when she fell as a little girl, her struggles school, when she left  for college…… she was that woman I prayed for every night for my son.

I wanted to share the mother son dance played during the reception when I danced with my little boy, now a man.

A MOTHER’S PRAYER
Words by Bonnie J. Barbey
Music by Kay Crawford

A PRECIOUS LITTLE BABY BOY TUCKED IN HIS MOTHER’S ARMS
LISTENS AS SHE ASKS HER LORD TO KEEP HIM SAFE FROM HARM
HE LOOKS AT HER IN WONDER, AS HE HEARS HIS MOMMA PRAY
FOR GOD TO BLESS THE BABY GIRL WHO WILL MARRY HIM SOMEDAY

Chorus
KEEP HER SAFE, MAKE HER STRONG
GUARD HER BODY, HEART, AND SOUL
AND LET HER LIFE BE FILLED WITH LOVE
LIGHT THE PATH THAT SHE’S BEGUN
GIVE HER FAITH, FOR SHE’S THE ONE
WHO WILL GROW INTO THE WOMAN WHO
WILL STAND BESIDE MY SON

WADING POOLS AND BIG BOY TOOLS, HIS BUSY HANDS AT PLAY
SOMEWHERE THERE’S OTHER TINY HANDS THAT WILL JOIN WITH HIS ONE DAY
MOM’S HEART GOES OUT ACROSS THE MILES AS SHE SEEKS HER FATHER’S FACE
PRAYERS RISE INTO HEAVEN, TRANSCENDING TIME AND SPACE

KEEP HER SAFE, MAKE HER STRONG
GUARD HER BODY, HEART, AND SOUL
AND LET HER LIFE BE FILLED WITH LOVE
LIGHT THE PATH THAT SHE’S BEGUN
GIVE HER FAITH, FOR SHE’S THE ONE
WHO WILL GROW INTO THE WOMAN WHO
WILL STAND BESIDE MY SON

A LOVELY BRIDE COMES DOWN THE AISLE, MOM’S EYES ARE FILLED WITH TEARS
HER SON IS JOINING WITH THE ONE SHE’S PRAYED FOR ALL THESE YEARS
SHE SEES GOD’S HAND, HIS PERFECT PLAN IN THE COUPLE STANDING THERE
SHE BREATHES A SIGH OF THANKS TO GOD WHO HEARD A MOTHER’S PRAYER

KEEP HER SAFE, MAKE HER STRONG
GUARD HER BODY, HEART, AND SOUL
AND LET HER LIFE BE FILLED WITH LOVE
LIGHT THE PATH THAT SHE’S BEGUN
GIVE HER FAITH, FOR SHE’S THE ONE
WHO HAS GROWN INTO THE WOMAN WHO
NOW STANDS BESIDE MY SON

THE MARRIAGE VOWS ARE SPOKEN, EXCHANGING OF THE RINGS
AND SHE PRAYS, “OH FATHER, NOW I COME AND ASK FOR ONE MORE THING”
KEEP THEM SAFE, MAKE THEM STRONG
GUARD THEIR BODIES, HEARTS AND SOULS
AND LET THEIR HOME BE FILLED WITH LOVE
LIGHT THE PATH THEY’VE NOW BEGUN
GIVE THEM FAITH, FOR THEY’RE THE ONES
WHO WILL GROW INTO A COUPLE WHO WILL GLORIFY YOUR SON
LIGHT THE PATH THEY’VE NOW BEGUN
GIVE THEM FAITH, THEY’RE CHOSEN ONES
LET THEM GROW INTO THE COUPLE WHO WILL GLORIFY YOUR SON

Robert and Addy, I love you both.  Love, mamma.