Act 20:24 says: …. ” so that I might finish my course with joy,…”
There are days I wake up and feel depleted quickly from many weights that seems to be on my shoulders. I am normal in that I do worry about things and ponder things. I do have the ability to quickly parse these thoughts into their proper avenues but there are days I want to just pull the covers over my head and not expose myself to the daylight and what pain I might perceive awaits me.
I am robbing myself of the joy that awaits me in my day. I know this but that power to roll over with another cup of coffee and forget my timelines is strong.
So what do I do on these days? I get out of my routine and do something that will awake myself inner self again. Adding variety to your life is actually rather simple. Like instead of taking my coffee back to bed where it is too easy to stay there longer than I need to, I open the back deck and breath in the fresh air with my cat, Diva.
Many times I throw on some clothes and drive over to one of my favorite coffee shops with a notebook and enjoy some coffee while writing whatever comes to my mind. Soon I am inspired and energized for the day.
You can make your coffee at home, but it is just not the same as that stepping out to breath fresh air and going on a short adventure.
Enjoy your journey. There is an office park close by me that has a pond where ducks go to play. There are times I will take my cup of coffee over there to sit and enjoy the nature.
God wants us to have joy in our life. He does not want us to be sad and continue in that sadness day after day. Finish your course with joy.
Recently I started learning a new dance call the “West Coast Swing.” It is such a challenge as that as a woman I have to truly know my part and hold my own destiny in my steps or I will not be able to dance my part. In the Waltz or some other dances, I can follow the lead and in a way, relax a bit. I can let the man (or lead) control my moves).
Learning this dance reminded me of a conversation I had with another woman that was telling me she was sad because her husband stopped making her happy. In tears she told me this story of how she was miserable and cried a lot and felt incomplete. She did not want to get up in the morning and get dressed or put on make up which was what she loved to do.
I listened to her and actually cried with her as I knew she was in pain. But, then I told her what she might not have wanted to hear. Here is what I said and if you are in this boat, listen up!!!
it is NO ONE’S JOB on this earth to make YOU happy. It is not your child, your spouse, your dog, NO ONE. Being happy is YOUR JOB. Think about it. how can someone else make you happy? Ok, maybe a present can make you happy, but even then, if you are not truly happy, even a present you might cherish has a short season, right?
I am not a preacher or protest to be one, but listen to this one….. it is not even God’s job to MAKE us happy. Read Psalm 37:4 where the Bible states, “Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” The verse leans toward telling US TO DO THE ACTION first…. we are to delight in the Lord. We are to be the ones doing the work, not the other way around.
To tell myself OR YOU to be happy, you might say, “say what girl?” …..so let me say to seek joy first. Joy and happiness are wonderful feelings to experience, but are very different.
Let me tell you my thoughts on joy. Joy comes when you make peace with who you are, why you are and how you are. As I age, I have had surgeries that I have not liked how i was left, but I am 63 this year, I am going to have a less than bouncy body!!! If I decided to let the surgery lines take away my joy as I not have marks on my body, I am robbing myself. It is not always easy to transition to joy when you have to alter your way of thinking, but it is to me so critical before I can be happy.
I think happiness tends to be externally triggered and is BASED ON OTHER people, things, places, thoughts and events. But that deep joy comes from within ourselves so you have to have joy.
The reason I say you have to have joy to be happy is i feel true happiness, is an inner state of mind. If your mind is at peace and you seek joy, you can achieve happiness.
If you have everything the world can give – money, pleasure, possessions, power – but lack that joy, that peace of mind, you can never be happy.
So how do we get JOY!!! Which leads to our own happiness instead of waiting for someone else to make us happy? Joy is truly knowing that God is in control of all the details of our life. This take confidence that we need to let God lead and be aware that God is leading and LET GO.
SO, I hope this makes sense. If you wait around for someone else or some event to make you happy, you will continue to feel empty. Seek joy and in order to do that, you HAVE to ask God to fill you with joy.
Romans 15:13 says: “Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”
I know I am not alone in wondering this question, i feel it in my bones. And the answer is actually very easy, but sometimes the things right in front of our cute noses we just do not see.
As I enter 2020 and I am secure in myself, but I find I still desire to fine tune what my purpose is on this earth God created and along with that, continue to be happy. Remember it is not those around you that make you happy, but it is YOU … and only YOU that can create your happiness. Note: If you wait or demand someone else to create your happiness, that is just not gonna happen, more on that in another blog.
But, back to my humble thoughts on how we obtain the desires of our hearts. There was a time I would ask God and pray for success in my art business, healing of my fibroymalgia, more attention the way I WANTED from my husband, etc. These are not wrong as God loves us as his children to talk to him and be specific, but I honestly I realized I was missing one very important point that should precede these other requests.
I realized that I need to be praying and asking God for ONE THING…. instead of all of those other things that I needed.
The key is in Psalm 27:4
One thing I have desired of the Lord, That will I seek: That I may dwell in the house of the Lord All the days of my life, To behold the beauty of the Lord, And to inquire in His temple.
You see, the key is …. if we seek the Lord, He will give us the desires of our hearts. It is such a beautiful thing. God knows what we want, He knows our desires and our down deep cherished needs. With the fast pace of our culture today, there seems to be so many “things” that pull us away from truly seeking God. We also can be too self-absorbed in trying to seek one detail we think will make us happy that we miss seeking God as the bigger picture.
I have tried to describe this thought like a donut. If we seeks Gods path and HIM, He will in turn give us the desires of our hearts. If we do it the other way around, we might miss for years what God truly has to make us happy. Does that make sense?
It is my firm belief that, second only to salvation, seeking God is the most important aspect of the Christian life…to truly know God: “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart” (Jeremiah 29:13).
As we enter into 2020, think about this concept, think about seeking God first and allowing Him to give you each one of your desires. I am going to refocus on this concept. It sounds simply but … well, lets make it simple!!!